Lessons Learned … Easy Way Or Hard Way
Did your parents (or another adult) ever say to you, “We can do this the easy way or the hard way”? I didn’t fully understand how true this statement would be in life. We all make choices. And we have all, on occasion, ‘learned the hard way’ that we should have listened to our parents, or our teacher, or a colleague when they tried to warn us about a choice we were making.
I tend to look for the path of least resistance. I like easy vs hard. I think most of us are like that. We don’t like pain and we don’t like to suffer. One of the life lessons I’ve learned is that sometimes we just have to learn the hard way. When I learn ‘the hard way’ I often become a better, stronger, and more well-rounded person.
Three lessons often learned ‘the hard way’:
Who You Can Trust And Who You Can’t
How long does it take us to learn not to trust people who speak ill of others to us, or throw someone else under the bus, or gossip about other people. We often learn the hard way that it’s not if, but when, they will likely do the same to us.
Where To Invest Your Time and Talent
I think nearly every working person has dealt this with one. We donate trillions of brain cells and hundreds of hours working hard for other people’s goals and ignoring our own — and for what? Over time we learn to set boundaries. We eventually learn to say ‘No!’ to the wrong people and the wrong opportunities — but only after we’ve been burned a time or two.
When To Speak Up
Oh the regret when we realize we should have spoken up about something that really mattered, but we didn’t. It can be so painful to look back and know that I bit my tongue and remained silent instead of saying something that needed to be said. It hurts when we finally understand that when we keep silent, we are part of the problem!
What lessons have you learned about Jesus in everyday life? How many of them did you have to learn ‘the hard way’? Over my 21 years of full time ministry and 43 years of life, I have learned a lot about myself, my faith, and my relationship with Jesus … some of it the easy way, some of it the hard way. The good news is that Jesus has never given up on me.
This Sunday I will begin my final sermon series as your pastor, called Lessons Learned. I hope to see you in worship and celebrate communion with you as we look at Lessons Learned from Jesus’ words to his disciples as he prepared to leave them.